Explore how you show up in your relationships and how you experience the other person. There are no perfect scores; the goal is understanding and stronger connection.
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How to use this tool
Choose one person to reflect on. Complete both parts independently: first how you see yourself showing up, then how you see that person showing up. If both people participate, complete your own assessments privately before comparing your results together.
Please select a relationship to continue.
For families with children 8 or older; for children 7 or younger, use the parent version for self-reflection and age-appropriate conversation.
PART 1 OF 2
How I show up
Reflect honestly on your own behavior in this relationship.
Please answer all 10 questions to continue.
PART 2 OF 2
How I perceive the other person
Think about how you experience the other person's behavior toward you.
Please answer all 10 questions to see your results.
Personal reflection report
My Alignment Assessment
These are your two perspectives: how you rate yourself and how you perceive the other person. They are not the other person's responses, and differences are not a clinical score or diagnosis.
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Reflection
Where are we already aligned and strong?
Where do our perspectives differ, and why might we see things differently?
What can we do to better support each other?
What is one intentional action I want to take next?
It's normal to notice both strengths and opportunities to improve. The value of this exercise is in creating understanding and meaningful conversation. Revisit monthly if helpful.
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